Atty. Weng's Two Cents

It's been along time since I posted anything. Now, I want to share something that Atty. Weng Mojica-Rodriguez wrote after she just lost her mom. This is too beautiful to keep to myself:

Something I came up with, around the time I lost my mom and waaay before I had Mav and lost my Dad:

It's been more than a year from the day I got married. Looking back, various events made the past year an enriching and englightening one for me. I realized that truly a LOT could happen in a span of one year. A rundown of my random thoughts for the past year would include:

- that death has a weird way of playing with your memories - slowing down when you come to terms with the fact of death (eventually after a bit of denial), then moving on to replaying every single detail of your last contact with the deceased, and then finally fast forwarding to the minutest details that you have to take care of, for you to move on;

- that comfort would come from within and you'll surprise yourself giving comfort to others who might need it;

- that your partner should be your ally;

- that the most tender and harmless of touches could be the most reassuring;

- that the smallest gestures speak volumes;

- that you should always weigh your options;

- that your priorities affect others too, so be really careful in working them out.

- that sometimes simple pleasures can be the most rewarding;

- that you have to choose the wars you have to wage and the battles you must win;

- that emotions should be kept in check especially with professional matters;

- that a deep breath should be able to calm you down;

- that a really good book may sometimes be your best companion;

- that you should not allow fights to diminish your respect for the other person;

- that you should learn your lessons from fights (and you will learn a lot during fights than in times of peace, hehehehe);

- that you should keep yourself busy - fill your head with useful information;

- that you should take time to observe what's going on around you;

- that occasional splurges work wonders on a tired body and mind;

- that you can only be genuinely happy for others if you do not desire what that other person has;

- that you should listen to yourself think;

- that open spaces are a welcome change of scenery for me;

- that I am so involved in planning vacations, especially much needed ones :) ;

- that those things I put off usually take the least effort to do (weird noh?!);

- that I am terrible in keeping my gift list for my inaanaks, relatives and friends (Note to self: compile the list this year and start shopping early!);

- that I enjoy packing but absolutely hate unpacking when I get back home;

- that a well-thought out playlist can drastically improve your mood;

- that meeting new people can still be rewarding;

- that the more people you meet, the more effort you have to exert to keep in touch with your old friends;

- that sometimes things are not how they appear to be;

- that I should not take things for granted;

- that sentiments should not be attached to objects;

- that cardiorespiratory health and diet may be my best bet against deterioriating health by age 40 (yikes! ang lapit na nun!!!);

- buko salad/pandan and barbecue are foolproof, any recipe would be appealing for me;

- that should you find yourself out of work for a month or two, you would not be a burden to anyone;

- that I'm targetting for at least 3/4 of what I have should be dispensable;

- that more often than not, you have everything that you need. : )